SAME LOVE: WHAT SAY YOU?

Gay is a state of being cheerful, merry and jolly. However, the most popular definition of gay is homosexual which certainly known as being gay, sexually and that kind of gay is what this write up is all about. 'Gay' is a general term generally referred to those who prefer others of the same gender, this broad term comprises of all the types of unnatural sexuality there is. Namely, lesbians are those females attracted to their own kind, bisexuals refer to those who go both ways, transgendered is a gender trapped inside another while asexual is a group who prefer to not have a gender all together.

There has always been a great debate on what constitutes a person to ‘gay’ some might say it is a pre-programmed code in the human DNA. Others infer it to be freedom of choice and expression. The rest just say it is a trend catching on from one to another. Nonetheless it is spreading like wildfire and the fears and harms of it is prominent and real. We see this as a ‘stigma’ of being homosexual is spreading quite rapidly and at an alarming state. What really is the cause of this anomaly? Can we curb this ‘trend’ from spreading? Should we shun those in such groups away from society or should they be accepted by the society with open arms?

When it comes to sexuality, the equality will come together. Equality is a subjective matter. Every each homosapien who’s living in this world somehow might have or might not have differences in opinions, thoughts and perspectives about equality especially in sexuality. However, the authority and the divine sources are what we need to guide us. Every religion forbids the same gender relationships. In Islam, the holy Qur’an stated which in Surah Luth that explained Islam banned the same gender relationship among males and females. So, we have to rely on the divine rules that have been there for quite long as for guidance.

There are a lot of factors that can lead to the spreading of homosexuality in our society. One of the discovered factors is the influences from peers and surrounding. Different people live in the different area and life style. Our behaviors and actions usually affected by the people who we live with. The influence of people who is very close to us is very strong as we normally act as who he or she is. So, whenever the homosexuality comes in close to a person, somehow it cannot be denied that the person can be influenced.

My friends and I have done in a research for our Psychology class in part 1 on the causes of homosexuality. We discovered that one of the contributing factors that cause such growth spurt is due to being misled by opinion leaders.

Local opinion leaders like Ambiga and Marina Mahathir are prominent figures. Their opinions speaks louder than anyone else and not to mention that the masses deemed all of their sayings as very credible, due to them having professional profession (UtusanMalaysia, 2006). These kinds of people have the power to shape and influence the society and the fact is that Ambiga is promoting the ‘Seksualiti Merdeka’ which concern about the equality in sexuality. Meanwhile, Marina Mahathir has been defending the rights of the LGBT (Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgendered) all the way along with Ambiga.

So, by having those opinion leaders who also are public figures that support this spreading cancer, we have to admit that these gay people will feel supported and feel more comfortable with what they are doing. That is why this problem is now become very popular and perhaps a trend.

Homosexual is popular among the youngsters. It cannot be doubted that elder generation do have this issue but somehow pretty much of them have stop and back on the straight life. So, youngsters are more likely to try out almost everything in life. In some researches that I have read before, younger generation nowadays get into an intimate relationship as even as early at the age 16 years old. So, normally those kinds of love will not last long. Then, the heart broken lovers will figure out something to stick the pieces of heart back together. Unfortunately, there are parts from them that pick a way whereas they switch the preferences to the one that is in the same gender. Once they take a try, it keeps them addicted and get influenced. At the end of the day, more and more homosexual people produced.

As an observer, I do believe that this problem can be solve. We can try to prevent this from happening. We have can reduce the numbers. To change someone is hard but impossible is not. We can solve this with so many tools but must have the cooperation and supports from all.

Youths are easily influenced by websites and blogs. This can also spread among their friends. So, if possible we get to write more and more writings about homosexual as to influence the youth in the social networking. In this era, people used to check the updates on their smartphones almost every five minutes, so the probability to grab their attention to read is high.

We urge the government to implement sex and sexuality education in schools. Instead of instituting restrictive gender roles in schools, children should be given comprehensive sex education so that they can learn what better about sex and sexuality. Perhaps, it can help to prevent the anomaly of sexuality.

Comprehensive sex education should comprise topics on gender, sex, and sexuality. Children should be taught about gender identity, the emotional effects of healthy peer relationships, as well as the various forms of sexuality. This will not necessarily lead to children becoming sexually active or becoming homosexual. Instead, it will help children understand their bodies better and make informed decisions on sex and sexuality. The Convention of the Right of the Children (CRC) under the United Nations states that children must be allowed to develop to their fullest potential. Hence, the government should educate them instead of trying to identify gay children and singling them out for condemnation.  It is essential that any guideline or policy developed be in the best interest of the child.

After all, being gay is not a choice but it is something that defined who you are. Nonetheless, we should realize that the god have stated that man are living with pairs. Earth is created to pair with the sky. The sun is created to pair with the moon. So do males must be paired with females? Yes, it is. I do believe in equality but somehow we have to follow the rules. Yes, rules are created because there are people who broke them before. So, don’t be as one of those. Be the one that create the changes and see the world through the eyes. Be as gay; molly jolly that you want not gay, sexually.